Would you say that as women we aware of that?
I wouldn’t say that only women are. In the German part of Switzerland, involvement of fathers is quite high, higher than in the French part. This also shows different models, and you don’t necessarily identify with your mother as a girl, you can also identify with your father. I think it’s a big change. I don’t think you can preach equality to your kids. But it’s important to show that you care about equality through your actions.
It’s really a lifelong journey. Everyday, every week, I realize that there’s something I still do and I shouldn’t be doing it any longer, something that I wasn’t aware of. For example, the other day I called my daughter ‘ma belle’ (‘my beauty’). I don’t think beauty is important, but I wasn’t aware that by calling my girls so I could transmit a feeling that it is important to be beautiful for your mommy. They would probably not take it as such, but being aware of that is important.
On election day of the 7th Federal Councilor, you partner tweeted a question your daughter asked him that day 'Wasn't there any woman from the Italian part of Switzerland who was as good as a man to run for election?' I remember reading it and thinking that it was just so evident. How do you reflect on that?
I’m really proud that they have their own opinion, and I won’t say it to them, but especially when they contradict me, saying in my head ‘Wow, that’s really good!’. One example, the other day I was helping my partner fix the washing machine, and I was holding something not really knowing what I was doing. As I was holding it, my daughter came over and asked me what I was doing, I told her that I didn’t know, and she asked why I was doing something I didn’t understand. I felt really proud of her, she was totally right. Even at a small level, you can be critical and not do something if you don’t understand it.
My youngest takes karate classes, she’s the smallest one, and there are only a few girls in her class, and she feels right there. I’m proud of her, she doesn’t think about it, and she just does her thing.
We talk about politics at home, and my older daughter sits in the kids’ parliament of our town and she enjoys it. It makes me really proud because it’s not something we forced her to do it. It was her project, her wanting to be part of it.